Courtyard to Entrance - Part 3 ... - Redeemed

The fatherless

the orphan mindset (spirit of bondage/spirit of slavery) vs. coming into His sonship “We were not made to live without a destiny. We were made to be sustained by a meaningful, purposeful future. We were made to be strengthened each day by this assurance, this confidence: that what is happening in our lives today, no matter how mundane and ordinary, is a really significant step toward something great and good and beautiful tomorrow. When that connection breaks down—between my present life and a great and good and beautiful destiny—I have three choices:

I can kill myself; or
I can numb myself (with alcohol or drugs or television or pornography or romance novels or computers or frantic work or frantic play); or
I can seek to reestablish the connection by finding what my true destiny really is. “

John Piper, March 8,1992

I started this one with this Passage by John Piper, because I wanted to map out where that mindset of orphans comes from in the first place.

Not knowing who we are and whose we are, has us simply wondering through life. If we are lucky then, we meet someone who seemingly has purpose and then just walk alongside them, in hopes that whatever it is, they are leading us to, somehow will have a meaning for us as well. And then other times we are not lucky but rather live with the agony of continuous purposelessness, that leads to envy and falsehood. IN my opinion the second is worse.

Imagine being fully aware of a lack and never being able to satisfy or truly compensate for it, yet you watch others that are fully content with everything they have or that always seem to know how to fill the lack they have.

I had always felt as though I was different from most of the people I knew, while many of them seemed to have similar ideas and philosophies, Attitudes and Mindsets. Meanwhile I was struggling with the evidence right in front of me. I think different than most people around me, but have conformed to the way they behave to fit in. Looking back, I had many years of exhaustion behind me, simply because I did as I saw others do, spoke like them, believed like them, lived like them. All the while I was developing an Imposter Syndrome without even ever noticing.

In fact, it became so bad, I was a walking mixture of things I had adopted and copied from the people around me, fully rejecting who I really was, because I had no idea who I really was and I hated the person I thought I was. Keeping in mind, that this was at a time where I was running in the opposite direction from God and trying to find answers in anything but the faith in Jesus Christ, its needles to say, that the people I was surrounded by – however kindhearted and loyal they were- they were not what I would now call equally joked. In fact, quite the opposite.

Walking around without your purpose and vision is a perfect receipt for other people making decisions for you and them ending in disasters. The worst part is. You only have yourself to blame. Or at least that’s what we admit to ourselves in the seldom, honest moments.

Another thing about it is that you don’t just stop being purposeless. First you need to come to the realization, that that is a very bad and dangerous place to be. Its like a Claypot that thinks it might be a gumball, because its not aware of who it truly is. Now what will happened if the clay pot tries to do what a gumball usually does? The same thing that happens, when we don’t know what we are, who we are, whose we are, why we are, how we are. When we let others or circumstances define who we are, when other live our lives for us, instead of letting our potter tell us what the purpose for making us was, how we were made, for whom we are and whose we are. If we know whose we are -the potters or the shepherds or the Fathers- then we know who we are -a Vase/Pot, sheep, child of…- Now most of what I said up there probably sounds very familiar to you. But other than simply having no clue its almost worse to always feel as though you were strange, different, alien. Ive also heard people say things like “I have always felt like I was made for something greater” or “I feel as though I am missing something all the time”. That brings me right back to that imposter syndrome. When you don’t have or know now your surname you have no idea, as whose child you are walki8ng around. That can nearly drive you crazy.

When you talk to orphans, that really never found out who their parents are, many times you will see a near obsession linked to them finding out where they came from. Its almost as if, the right to be on earth and to be alive, well, even loved and taken care of, is directly linked to having a root or simply a heritage. And when we don’t have one, questions like “why am I here? Am I wanted? Am I loved? Am I worth anybody’s actual while? Where do I belong?” or even simply put “What is the purpose, of my life?”.

Finally, the only one who can give you that answer is the one who gave you life itself. The only one who knows the purpose of His sheep is the one who purchased them (back). The only one who knows the purpose of the clay item is the potter Himself.

The only one who knows why he bore children is the Father.

If the Father, the Gotter, the Shepherd, the Creator (Lifegiver) does not give us identity, purpose, reason and use, we are like leaves in autumn, that are blown here and there by the wind and do not know where they are or where they are headed to.

The Father always wants to gibe us identity. In fact, He always has. He did, at the very beginning of mankind, when He created, He did continuously when He walked with the different heroes and heroines in the bible and gave them promises and made covenants with them, He did when He sent His first born… His only begotten… the Word… the Way… the Truth… & the Life, the Messiah, He did, when Christ said the famous words “It is finished”, He did when He walked with the apostles and gave them the Spirit breathed words that they wrote down and that they proclaimed to jews and gentiles, and He did, when He gave John the revelations of what was to come and what is to come and what our role in all of it is and is going to be.

In other words, He has already called you... yes, YOU by your name, He has already purchased you, He has already signed the adoption papers and is waiting for you to put your signature, he has already formed you for a purpose and is waiting for your readiness to do what you were made for.

Our Father had already prepared the works for us and the life we were supposed to live before we were even born. Needless to say then, it is only smart to ask HIM to simply point us to the spot, on those papers, where He needs our signature and then be on our way to sonship. Right?

What John Piper is saying above is, that the difference between walking in the spirit of orphanage and walking in the spirit of sonship I some cases is literal life and death.

I can testify to by telling you that, when I was unaware of my adoption I was in depression and the spirit of death was constantly lingering around and poking me ever so often. Even my body- which is common and should not be a surprise- reacted to that was always riddled with indefinable pains and illness. At that time, I hardly slept through a night after fighting to fall asleep in the first place. I could feel my will to live slowly drifting away and thoughts like “Who would really miss me. Who would really care? What would the life of my family be like once I am gone. Sure, they would mourn me but after a while surely, they would be fine. Besides I would not be there to find out whether that’s true or not, so what do I care”. The longer I entertained these thoughts the darker and more self-centered they became. All because I did not understand who’s I was and who it was I needed to fix my eyes upon. I had to learn that, since I did not premeditate, pre-love and then create myself I cannot find the answer to why I am alive in myself. It’s a downward spiral from the moment we start believing that instead of the fact, that the one who creates knows why and what He created. What is sonship with God then? Sonship with God means:

you have an ultimate belonging. Nothing & no one comes before God creating you, choosing you and wanting you alive on this earth. Your justified, righteous, holy and being perfected.
you have the unconditional, unyielding, everlasting & individual love of God the Father, the Son & the Holy Spirit. A personal love, so deep that no one can surpass it or grasp it in its entirety. A love so big that no one has & will ever love you as much as your heavenly Family does.
you have free access to healing, miracles, supernatural works.
you have free access to the fruit of the spirit and the works of the spirit.
you have free access to blessing and success according to how God measures success.
you have ministering spirits working for your benefit under God rule.
you have the authority to send away any attack of the enemy.
you have the authority to drive out daemons, heal the sick, raise the dead. Yes, the DEAD.
you are a citizen of heaven and have the promise of eternity with God secured for you.
you have a calling on your life that would bring you to your full potential if you chose to say “yes”.

What is the spirit of orphanage?

I read this beautiful article about this on a website called “Adorned heart”, that said the following: “Christians that fail to understand the promises and character of God often operate under an orphan spirit. They tend to see God as mean, stingy, angry, unforgiving, and quick to punish. Essentially, they don’t know that they have a Heavenly Father that is loving, forgiving, powerful, giving, just, and understanding.

An orphan mindset can stunt a believer’s spiritual growth. A negative view of God’s parental role may cause believers to constantly fear being rejected, overlooked, punished, and judged. These fears cripple their walk and cause them to lack confidence in God’s love and protection. Essentially, it becomes hard to stand firm in faith during obstacles when you don’t believe God is good.

In contrast, confident children of God can boldly approach God and believe biblical promises. Ultimately, they’re secure in their relationship with God: “Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16)“ From “Adorned heart” By Christina Daniels The article then gives us a list of the things we are to watch out for, to decern that orphan spirit & councils us to learn the countering scripture as well as take advice from biblically sound mentors:

Unbelief that God forgave your former sins.

Feeling stuck, hopeless, defeated, and giving up quickly.
Constantly fearing that God will punish you.
Competing and comparing yourself to other Christians.
Fasting and praying from a place of guilt, fear, and striving.
Feeling unworthy of salvation.
Distrust that biblical promises are your portion.
The inability to walk in spiritual authority.
Fear of walking in your purpose and calling.
Believing lies about the character of God.
Relying on your own self-effort rather than God’s strength.
Forgetting to pray and ask for God’s help.
Fearing God will withhold good things from you.
Allowing offense and fear to separate you from a spiritual family.
Doubting the power of God to intervene in any situation.
Fear of intimacy with God and others.

From “Adorned heart” By Christina DanielsA prayer of the fatherless I need you! I want to feel what they are talking about. I want to know love, belonging, identity. I need to experience knowing you! I NEED YOU! The father’s response

Romans 8: 15-17
“You have received a spirit of adoption, through which we cry, “Abba Father!” The Spirit itself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs, heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ, if only we suffer with him so that we may also be glorified with him”

2 Corinthians 6:18

“I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty.”Ephesians 1:5
“God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great delight.” „Prayer to Renounce the Orphan Spirit Abba, thank you for being my father. I invite you to heal the orphan mindsets that I may have. My only desire is to confidently approach you in intimacy. Thank you for always paving a way for us to be close O’ Lord. You are so good. You saw the gold in me when I couldn’t even see me. I’m learning to love who I am because you’re a good teacher. You are the potter, and I am your unique and beautiful masterpiece. I’m thankful that you created me the way I am. And I’m grateful for the gift of the Holy Spirit to keep me in purity and connection with you. I am in love with the way that you guide, protect, teach, discipline, and bless me papa. I rejoice because I am learning how much you love me more and more every day. I’m learning more and more that everything you do is motivated by love. I hope to be more and more like you. Papa, set my heart a blaze for all the fatherless and motherless in the world. I want to help others to see the beauty of intimacy with you. At your word rejection, pride, fear, doubt, unworthiness, and lack are defeated. And I’m excited because your lost children will rejoice when they understand this GOOD NEWS. I love you Abba. Amen. “ From “Adorned heart” By Christina DanielsMy Prayer My God. My Father

Hear the prayers of those who long to come to you.

Teach me to speak your language of love to them and to invite them into your everlasting love.

Give me Your heart, so that I yearn to see the orphans come into sonship

Hear our prayer!

Amen